It’s week 2 of Developmental Disabilities Awareness Month! This week we are talking about consent. Last week, we busted the myth that people with IDD cannot live on their own. We showed that many people with IDD can live in their own homes, make their own choices, and take care of their daily needs. It just takes the right support. We shared tips from an expert who has lived independently for over 30 year. Read his story and get resources here.
New Myth: People with IDD Do Not Understand Consent
A very harmful myth is that people with IDD do not understand consent. Consent means saying yes or no to a physical touch. You get to decide what happens to your body. You can change your mind at any time. Some people believe that people with IDD can’t do this. This is false. Everyone can learn about consent. Everyone has the right to set make decisions about their own body. Believing this myth puts people with IDD at risk.
People with IDD are harmed by sexual assault more often than others. They are often harmed by someone they know. This can include family members, others with IDD, and support staff. This is why consent is critical in all relationships. People with IDD can and should learn how to stay safe.
Teaching and Learning About Consent
Consent can be confusing. It can be hard to know when and how to give it and get it. Consent can change and be taken back. People with IDD need to know they are in control of their own bodies. They have the right to say yes or no in all situations. They can change their mind at any time. Families, teachers, and other supporters can help. Here are some tips.
- Talk about what consent means. Start by talking about choices and how to make them. Then move on to more advanced ideas about consent.
- Demonstrate consent in everyday life. Ask permission before hugging someone. Ask if the person is okay with the way you are touching them during personal care.
- Be an ally. Watch for times when a person seems uncomfortable with a touch. Ask them if the touch was okay. Ask if they want help setting stronger boundaries.
Learn More and Share Resources
Looking for more resources? Here are some great tools for teaching and learning about consent.
- Check out our Consent Playlist on our Seen & Heard: IDD Community YouTube channel.
- Explore our new Consent Toolkits. They are listed next to Sexual Assault Prevention & Response. They include discussion prompts, role-plays, and more. There is one for self-advocates and families to help them learn together. There is another one for teachers and service providers. It can be used to teach self-advocates. It can also be used for staff development.
Busting myths and teaching others the truth is important. We can build a better world where people with IDD are respected and valued.