The image features two trees that are each shaped like faces turned toward each other. Birds are flying between the two face trees. The image shows the viewer how people talking to each other is connected. It reminds us to use kind words and not to use the r-word.

The R-Word: Harm and Healing

Today, we are talking about the r-word. It can be very upsetting to many people. But it is a problem that needs to be solved.

Many people worked hard to stop the use of this word. Over time, attitudes changed. More people learned that the r-word is hurtful. But lately, the word has started to show up again. We hear it in jokes, online comments, and conversations.

The r-word is not funny. It is disrespectful. And it causes real harm to people with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD).

The R-Word Hurts People


Some people say the r-word as a joke. They may not think about what it means. But for people with IDD, hearing this word can be very painful. Words matter. In this video, James shares how he feels about the r-word. He talks about why it bothers him and why people need to stop using it.



Watch the full video on our YouTube channel.

How the R-Word Causes Harm


The r-word does more than hurt feelings. It can cause real problems.

  • It spreads harmful stereotypes. The word suggests that people with IDD are something to laugh at.
  • It makes it easier for people to mistreat others. If people think someone is “less than,” they may not feel bad about excluding them or hurting them.
  • It harms mental health. Hearing this word can make people with IDD feel sad, angry, or embarrassed. Some people may become afraid to speak up.
  • It makes communities less welcoming. People with IDD may feel like they do not belong.



Many people now know that using the r-word is wrong. But we still need to remind others why it matters.

How to Help Stop the R-Word


Everyone can help stop the spread of this harmful word. You can:

  • Speak up when you hear it. Calmly say that the word is hurtful and not okay to use.
  • Choose respectful language. Words help shape how we treat each other.
  • Treat people with IDD with respect and kindness, just like anyone else.
  • Help others learn. Some people simply do not understand why the word is harmful.



Respect starts with our words. When we choose better words, we help build communities where everyone is valued and included.

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Words matter. When we stop using hurtful words, we help create a world where people with IDD are respected and included.