Last week, we talked about relationship myths. This week, we’re talking about soulmates. Movies often show only one kind of relationship. But real life is not that simple.

People with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD) want relationships. They want to feel cared for, supported, and valued. But what a soulmate looks like can be different for each person.

Different Ideas of Soulmates

In this video, self-advocates share their ideas about soulmates. Each person sees things a little differently.

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Some Relationships Are Romantic

Some people want romance. Romance can mean different things to each person.

For Lisa, romance is about signs of love. That includes giving gifts and showing you care. For Logan, romance is about shared interests and spending time together doing things you enjoy.

There is no one right way to be romantic. What matters is that both people feel happy, respected, and safe.

Not All Relationships Are Physical

Many people think that soulmates must touch, kiss, and hug each other. Some think they must have a sexual relationship. But James says the most important thing to him in a relationship is support. He wants someone who listens, helps, and cares.

Paz is asexual. That means they do not have sexual feelings for other people. Asexual people can still want close relationships. They may be based on trust, companionship, or connection instead of sex.

Closeness does not have to include sex to be real or meaningful.

Relationships Can Be Lifelong

Brandy talks about a lifelong friend. This person meets all the qualities of a soulmate. They have been there through good times and hard times. They offer care, understanding, and steady support.

Some soulmates are friends who stay in your life for many years. These relationships can be just as deep and important as romantic ones.

Healthy Relationships Look Many Ways

Healthy relationships can be romantic, non-romantic, or in between. What matters most is how people treat each other. Healthy relationships have:

People with IDD deserve healthy relationships just like others. They should get to say what a soulmate means to them.

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Everyone deserves connection. Everyone deserves the right to define love, friendship, and soulmates in their own way.