During the holidays, people often want to be kind and caring. But sometimes, they forget an important truth: People with IDD are not children. They may like fun things, bright lights, or games. But that does not make them child-like. They are adults with adult interests, goals, and rights. In this post, we talk about why treating people with IDD like children can be harmful.
People with IDD Are Not Children
James talks about why this myth frustrates him in a new video. He shares how annoyed he was when a staff member dressed up as Santa for a group of adults. He remembers a teacher who kindly shared the truth about Santa. James shares his wish to get gifts that relate to his own interests. And he challenges us to include people with IDD in activities of their choice.
Watch the full video on our YouTube channel.
This Myth Can Be Harmful
Seeing people with IDD as children is not just wrong. It can actually cause harm. When we treat adults like kids:
- We forget to teach the skills they need to live on their own.
- We avoid real, honest talks about safety, relationships, and the world.
- We may not prepare them for the dangers they could face.
- We limit their choices and their dignity.
Buying into this myth can stop people with IDD from growing, learning, and becoming more independent. It can make it harder for them to reach their goals and dreams.
What to Do Instead
It can be hard to give up old ways of doing things. But it’s important to treat adults with IDD as adults. This is true during the holidays and beyond. Here are simple ways to do that.
- Follow their lead. Ask what they like, want, or enjoy. Let them choose how to celebrate. Let them ask for what they really want.
- Choose age-appropriate gifts. Match gifts to their interests, not to their disability. A person who loves cooking shows may not want a toy kitchen. They may want a cooking class instead.
- Have honest conversations. Adults deserve clear, real information. When you talk about holiday traditions, be open and honest. You can do that and be sensitive at the same time.
- Ask before planning activities. Do they want Santa? Do they want a party? Would they rather have a quiet meal at a nice restaurant? A peaceful walk in a park filled with holiday lights? Let the person decide.
Seeing people with IDD as full adults builds stronger, safer, more inclusive communities.
Learn More
During the holidays and all year long, people with IDD aren’t children. We can all help bust this myth!
- Watch our Independent Living playlist on YouTube.
- Explore our free self-advocacy courses.
- Read more blog posts on building independent living skills.
When we treat adults with IDD with respect, we make space for their strengths to shine. Each of us has the power to change old habits and build better ones.