Last week, we talked about soulmates. We learned that soulmates can look many ways. This week, we are talking about how to keep that bond strong. One big way is by having shared goals. Shared goals mean you and your partner want some of the same things. You work on these goals together.

Hear Brandy talk about shared goals.

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Shared Goals Are Important

Shared goals help people feel close. When you work on a goal together, you:

This builds trust.

For people with IDD, shared goals are very important. They help make sure both people have a voice. One person should not make all the choices. These goals help keep the relationship fair and healthy.

Know What Is Important to You

Before you can set goals with someone else, you need to know what you want. 

Think about questions like:

Maybe you want a safe place to live. Maybe you want a job you enjoy. Or maybe you want to share experiences with your partner. These things matter. Your goals should match what is important to you.

Talk About Your Goals

Next, talk with your partner. You can tell them what you want in life. You can ask them what they want in life. Be sure to listen to each other. Remember, you don’t have to rush to make goals. Everyone’s goals are important.

You may find that some goals are the same. That is great! Those can be shared goals. You may also have goals that are different. That is okay too. You can have shared goals and personal goals at the same time.

Having goals helps partners grow together. They help you support each other. They help you feel heard. And they help you stay connected.

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When you work as a team, your relationship gets stronger. And that helps both people feel safe, loved, and respected.