The holiday season can be fun. It’s a time for family and friends to be together. It’s a time to share in traditions. But it can be stressful and even sad for some people. Last week we talked about supporting family caregivers. This week, we look at using new holiday traditions to support people with IDD.
Old Traditions
Getting together with family and friends can be hard for some people. Having lots of people together can be overwhelming. Sitting at the table having conversations can be tiring. If someone is a caregiver, it can be hard to cook a lot of food and host family. These things can make the holidays feel more like work than joy.
Some people do not have family in their lives. They may be isolated in a group home. They may have lost loved ones. Watching others celebrate can make them feel lonely. This can be hard on a person’s mental health.
New Holiday Traditions
Some people start new holiday traditions. New traditions can make the holidays feel calmer and more fun. We asked our team what new or different ways they celebrate. One person shared that they go bowling on Christmas Eve. Another said they like going to a movie on Christmas Day. James shared something cool he did last holiday season. He went on a cruise by himself!
Watch the full video to hear more about James’ new tradition.
Doing things differently can reduce stress. Everyone can be included. They can focus on fun instead of worrying or feeling sad. Here are some other ideas for making holidays easier.
- Build your found family. Find others who might be alone for the holidays. Plan something fun with them.
- Do a gift exchange. Everyone just draws one name instead of buying gifts for all the family members. This saves money and stress.
- Choose not to cook a big dinner. Snack on favorite foods instead.
- Do something totally different, like James! Focus on what would make you feel good.
These new ideas can help everyone feel more relaxed.
Other Ways to Support Mental Health
There are many ways to make the holidays feel easier for people with IDD. First, think about your plans. Some people work better when there are clear plans and they know what to expect. Others feel overwhelmed with lots of plans. Say no to invitations if staying home feels better. Keep gatherings small and quiet. Do what feels right.
Next, keep in mind that holidays are hard for people who have lost loved ones. Whether the death is recent or happened a long time ago, it can be a sad time. Reach out to see how they are doing. Ask if they want to talk about their loved one. Invite them to join in on your plans.
Finally, watch for signs that someone is stressed. They might step away, look tired, or stay quiet. They may not want to eat as much. Or they may not want to do things they normally find fun. These are all signs a person might need support. Offer breaks and a quiet space. Give choices instead of setting strict plans.
Most of all, remind each other that the holidays are about caring, not perfection.
Want to Learn More?
- Visit our Mental Health resource hub. It has videos, research, blog posts, and more.
- Hear from our friend Brandy about supporting people who have lost loved ones.
- Build your self-advocacy skills with our free courses.
New traditions can bring comfort, joy, and peace for everyone. From all of us at the Self-Advocate Network: Have a great holiday season your way.